Guy Asks the Internet to Help Find a Girl
For anyone who has watched the Philip DeFranco show, he featured this story a couple of days ago and made some interesting points and quite frankly I have to agree. Dumb idea, kids. (Assuming this story is even true).
Quick synopsis: a guy and a girl meet overseas. Girl gives guy her name, photo, and hometown, then says, "find me." Now guy is using internet to help find his missed connection.
If you're the kind of manic pixie dream girl that thinks this is a great idea, just stop.
If you think you have a serious connection with someone, why wouldn't you exchange contact information and pursue it further? Why would you make your potential mate go on some private eye sleuthing expedition? Why would you risk the chance that, despite his best efforts, he wouldn't be able to find you?
Dumb.
But on the flip side... was this her way of blowing off some creeper, by giving him false information and a manic pixie dream girl command that no 'nice guy' could resist, thus allowing her to escape from the encounter without having to deal with the ensuing 'hurt feelings' or further creeping? In which case, the girl has my sympathies. Perhaps this wasn't the best way to handle things, but that's something that often only becomes apparent in retrospect.
Still, there's an air of "Lifetime Movie" permeating this story. As Phil points out, the guy's posts sound like the narrator of a movie. It's a little too much. A little too poetic, a little too perfect, a little too indie film.
And while I could certainly see this being the plot of a movie, in real life this is the kind of thing that should be sending up the relationship red flags.
For anyone who has watched the Philip DeFranco show, he featured this story a couple of days ago and made some interesting points and quite frankly I have to agree. Dumb idea, kids. (Assuming this story is even true).
Quick synopsis: a guy and a girl meet overseas. Girl gives guy her name, photo, and hometown, then says, "find me." Now guy is using internet to help find his missed connection.
If you're the kind of manic pixie dream girl that thinks this is a great idea, just stop.
If you think you have a serious connection with someone, why wouldn't you exchange contact information and pursue it further? Why would you make your potential mate go on some private eye sleuthing expedition? Why would you risk the chance that, despite his best efforts, he wouldn't be able to find you?
Dumb.
But on the flip side... was this her way of blowing off some creeper, by giving him false information and a manic pixie dream girl command that no 'nice guy' could resist, thus allowing her to escape from the encounter without having to deal with the ensuing 'hurt feelings' or further creeping? In which case, the girl has my sympathies. Perhaps this wasn't the best way to handle things, but that's something that often only becomes apparent in retrospect.
Still, there's an air of "Lifetime Movie" permeating this story. As Phil points out, the guy's posts sound like the narrator of a movie. It's a little too much. A little too poetic, a little too perfect, a little too indie film.
And while I could certainly see this being the plot of a movie, in real life this is the kind of thing that should be sending up the relationship red flags.
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