Last night I was showing one of my friends an email I received on OKC that really pissed me off when I noticed a new message appear in my inbox. I read it quickly before turning to my friend, eyes already rolling, and said, "Dude... look at this. It's so totally a form letter. I fucking hate form letters!"
I can't remember my friend's response so I won't risk misquoting him, but we briefly waxed philosophical on dudes and form letters before we moved on to other topics.
Well, as you all should know by now, this ain't my first rodeo. I looked at my inbox later that night and saw this:
Form letter caught red handed!
C'mon guys. If you're going to be stupid enough to send out form letters, at least be smart enough to keep track of who you send them to. It's bad enough when my friend and I get the same one... but sending it to the same person twice in one week? That's just epic fail.
I'm sure there's some of you that don't understand my ire for form letters. You may even sympathize with these "poor fellows" who have been so beaten down by the system that they've resorted to copy/pasting the same message to hundreds of girls in hopes that one kind soul will take pity on them...
Look, the numbers game is great if all you're doing is looking for someone to fuck for tonight. But if you're looking for a relationship (or a friendship), you've pretty much just fucked it up. Let me explain how this feels from a potential relationship standpoint. I sit there and think, This person has not read my profile. This person does not care if we are seeking the same thing out of a relationship. This person does not care if we share common interests. This person is literally copying and pasting this message to hundreds of girls. This person does not see me as a human being. All this person cares about is that I'm a warm body with tits.
The fact that I am dehumanized and not seen as an individual is extremely alarming. That is an aspect of misogyny. I would rather have a drunken text of "wats up ?1" than an extremely detailed form letter, because I would at least know that the former was a genuine message for me. That person saw me as an individual, and they broke out of their Natty Light haze long enough to fumble on the keyboard and message me. They saw me as a fellow human being whom they specifically wanted to connect with (Yeah, I'm ending another sentence with a preposition. Suck it). And that's all most people want: to be seen for who they are and to be desired for being themselves.
I know it's rough not getting hundreds of messages a day to feed your ego, but trust me - it's all about quality, not quantity.
I can't remember my friend's response so I won't risk misquoting him, but we briefly waxed philosophical on dudes and form letters before we moved on to other topics.
Well, as you all should know by now, this ain't my first rodeo. I looked at my inbox later that night and saw this:
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| Mr. Nipples is just an added bonus for all of you. |
C'mon guys. If you're going to be stupid enough to send out form letters, at least be smart enough to keep track of who you send them to. It's bad enough when my friend and I get the same one... but sending it to the same person twice in one week? That's just epic fail.
I'm sure there's some of you that don't understand my ire for form letters. You may even sympathize with these "poor fellows" who have been so beaten down by the system that they've resorted to copy/pasting the same message to hundreds of girls in hopes that one kind soul will take pity on them...
Look, the numbers game is great if all you're doing is looking for someone to fuck for tonight. But if you're looking for a relationship (or a friendship), you've pretty much just fucked it up. Let me explain how this feels from a potential relationship standpoint. I sit there and think, This person has not read my profile. This person does not care if we are seeking the same thing out of a relationship. This person does not care if we share common interests. This person is literally copying and pasting this message to hundreds of girls. This person does not see me as a human being. All this person cares about is that I'm a warm body with tits.
The fact that I am dehumanized and not seen as an individual is extremely alarming. That is an aspect of misogyny. I would rather have a drunken text of "wats up ?1" than an extremely detailed form letter, because I would at least know that the former was a genuine message for me. That person saw me as an individual, and they broke out of their Natty Light haze long enough to fumble on the keyboard and message me. They saw me as a fellow human being whom they specifically wanted to connect with (Yeah, I'm ending another sentence with a preposition. Suck it). And that's all most people want: to be seen for who they are and to be desired for being themselves.
I know it's rough not getting hundreds of messages a day to feed your ego, but trust me - it's all about quality, not quantity.
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